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Author: naughty_couple Subject: How to ask for sex?
sun34
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posted on 06-08-2004 at 09:45 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
How to ask for sex?

We have been involved in the "club scene" for several months and have learned that it is the female of the couple that "closes the deal". We both find it very easy to introduce ourselves and chat with other couples but the only time we have actually played is when they ask us.

I am not accustomed to to being the aggressor and asking someones else for sex. I am used to being persued and luckily we have met others that are better at this than we are so we have had encounters.

However recently we have had the following happen:
We are chatting with a nice couple for an hour or more and another couple will join in on the conversation. Suddenly we realize they are hooking up and we are left standing by ourselves. It finally dawned on me that it was because the other two ladies would go to the bar for a drink or off to the ladies room and cut a deal.

Women have walked up to Mr. and said things like "you are not playing with me enough" or straight out grab his dick. I am not comfortable doing this.

How do I learn this art of being the aggressor?
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posted on 06-08-2004 at 09:59 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator


As your chatting with this couple, start becoming more and more touchy-feely, touching the other guys leg, getting closer and so on. You should get the vibes from the other couple if they like it. Then, simply suggest you all go somewhere to "party"
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naughty_couple
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posted on 06-08-2004 at 10:05 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator


I am not sure if it can be learned.

I have never been an agressor. Ever.


But I have started to since swinging.


Meeting people in a "vanilla" enviroment I would NEVER bring up sex.

But when we meet people we have met thru the lifestyle and I think all is going good, I will ask Mrs naughty if she is game when we get a minute alone.
If she is I will bring up sex after a little internal pep talk (which I have talked about in another thread).
I tell myself: "Self, these people are here for the same reason you are, SEX, if they weren't interested then they wouldnt still be talkng with us.

Then out it comes, sex talk.

There isnt a canned line I use since evey situation is different. I tailor the talk for the situation at hand and see where it goes......
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