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Author: issacc1965 Subject: No Pleasure
oneisenough
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posted on 01-02-2015 at 16:28 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
No Pleasure

There were a few attempts where I tried to masturbate. I would feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, and scared, so I would stop.

I feel as though I am not meant to experience sexual pleasure. Also, I have never dated nor kissed.

I am certain I am probably identified with asexuality. What does anyone think? Is this justified?
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posted on 03-10-2015 at 23:44 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
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'There were a few attempts where I tried to masturbate. I would feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, and scared, so I would stop.

I feel as though I am not meant to experience sexual pleasure. Also, I have never dated nor kissed.

I am certain I am probably identified with asexuality. What does anyone think? Is this justified?'


I've been through that as well, but I've yet to put it off as asexuality, because I still yearn to have a sexual experience with somebody.

I do masturbate, but it's nothing I do regularly. I'm actually very reluctant to do it even when the need is so strong. At this rate I think I do it because my body asks for it so much during times of stress, but it's nothing I resort to for the pleasure of it all... The first few times I tried to masturbate actually, I was also very uncomfortable and I felt silly, not knowing if I was doing it right or wrong, until I eventually got the hang of it. It wasn't that much of a big deal afterwards though.

Even now, I still feel ashamed, thinking I'm doing wrong. Every time, it's always the same selfish thoughts that I'm doing wrong or that I'm dirty or something, but it has nothing to do with religion ! Just in case that came to mind. lol I'm actually not very religious, I'm catholic but I rarely attend church or convey in prayers. The feeling of dirtiness and shame doesn't come from that... Idk where it stems from really, but it's there.

I'm not very experienced in the topic of masturbation or its causes, but from my own experience, I gather that it's mostly just me becoming more self-aware of the fact that I'm an adult that's still a virgin, blatantly refusing to have sex while all the while being perfectly capable of finding a partner to have sexual intercourse with...

I think we're just scared to go there. At least I am.
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COOL

Keep cool and calm ...when your doing the masturbate.
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posted on 08-30-2020 at 14:24 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Asexuality is...

Asexuality is defined as: the quality or characteristic of having no sexual feelings or desires.

I remember reading years ago that actress Jamie Lee Curtis felt the act of intercourse was "funny". She thought two humans grinding away was ridiculous in a humous way. To me, that meant she felt a detachment during intercourse, not the overwhelming and intimate sense that is more typical of human beings.

As I get older, I become less interested in sex. I put it down to lessening levels of testosterone and maybe some remembered encounters where the act didn't go so well.

Sex is an intimate experience that goes deep into our phyche. If you have guilt feelings when masturbating that would seem to indicate that you learned the act is wrong or dirty. No pleasure in that, my friend.

And if you have never been so much as kissed, that would seem to support a learned barrier to keep yourself close to the template your parents or community built in your life.

I wonder if other cultures, like latin men and women, compare to cultures with asian men and women. How would they chart against each other in terms of social sexual standards and taboos?
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