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			phoenixbird 
			
			
			
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				24F and would like to lose it
  
				I'm 24 and female. I would like to lose it but when I date someone and are even physically close to them, I freeze up. Any advice? Have I just not found the right guy? 
 
I feel like a freak. :(
				
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				hi
  
				I kinda feel the same way. You just have the find the right guy that will be patient with you when it gets to that point in you guys relationship. Just don't rush anything. That's my best advice, hope that helps you.
				
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				Same feeling here.  I'm 22 and I'm at a high pace speed looking for a career and meeting new people that it's hard to keep a steady relationship with anyone.  
				
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			Blank_Wall 
			
			
			
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				You are NOT a freak
  
				 'I'm 24 and female. I would like to lose it but when I date someone and are even physically close to them, I freeze up. Any advice? Have I just not found the right guy? 
 
I feel like a freak. :('  
 
I think it's appalling how some virgins feel like "freaks" simply because they 
have never had sex - and how some people would think badly of them 
for being someone who has never had sex. 
 
IMO: This sort of attitude is a ringing condemnation of the prevailing 
cultural norm. 
 
 
phoenixbird: You are NOT a freak. Believe it or not, there are some people 
who still value virginity, and would desire to have a virgin for a relationship 
partner - and for reasons that have nothing to do with religion. 
 
I should know: I am one of those people - and I wouldn't want anyone who isn't 
a virgin. 
 
What you need is a guy who can understand you - who knows that he needs 
to take it VEEEERRRRRY SLOOOOOWWWWWWLY with you. 
 
				
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			phoenixbird 
			
			
			
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				Thanks for the encouraging words everyone. :)
				
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				Do you have (m)any friends?
  
				 'Thanks for the encouraging words everyone. :)'  
 
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Look at the bright side: At least you're getting dates. 
 
I've never even had THAT. 
 
I'm about as much of a virgin as anyone could possibly be. 
 
You name it, I haven't done it. 
 
 
 
Phoenixbird: Do you have (m)any friends? 
 
Are you someone who makes friends easily? 
 
Someone who can socialize is someone who will have a good 
chance in finding somebody to love (eventually). 
 
If you're at least average in terms of physical attractiveness, 
you'll get plenty of male attention - and being physically 
attractive usually means just keeping the weight off. 
 
A "Lean Linda" will get A LOT more male attention than 
a "Porky Patty" - that's just a fact of life. 
 
(I only wish it were that simple for myself.) 
 
If you're a physically-attractive, female-type person, 
then your chances are good that you'll find that "someone 
special" eventually - just so long as you can be patient 
 - and not delude yourself into believing that the guy that 
you happen to be dating at the time is "the one" for you 
(when he really isn't). 
 
There are some things worse than being alone, and being in 
a bad relationship is one of them. Everyone has their flaws, 
and the main point in dating is to try and figure out what 
those flaws are, and try to determine if mitigating those 
flaws would be a problem within whatever kind of a 
relationship that you might have with that person. 
 
A major part of my own problem is that I am someone who has 
a lot of defects and deficiencies, so (based on that fact 
alone) it's understandable that I have always been alone 
 - and I really wouldn't blame any woman who would keep their 
distance from me - especially when she would have better options 
in terms of potential relationship partners. 
 
The Bottom Line is this: If a guy REALLY DOES love you, then 
he will take it slow with you - he will be patient with you 
 - and he will be understanding with you - and with whatever 
problems that you might have with regards to intimate contact. 
 
 ... and the main issue here isn't really sex and virginity, 
but in finding somebody to love. 
 
 
 
Do you have much in the way of religious beliefs? 
 
If so, there is always the option of joining a church. 
 
I was brought up to be a "Good Little Christian", 
but I've since shed those superstitions - once I began 
to think for myself - once I developed a logical mind. 
In a way, it's one of the greatest factors that has kept 
me alone. If a guy insists upon a virgin girl, then his 
best option would be to look for them in churches - and 
finding a virgin girl that doesn't have much in the way of 
religious beliefs is well neigh impossible. 
 
Religious types place a MUCH higher value upon virginity 
than those who are not of that persuasion, so you'd find 
plenty of guys that would prefer a virgin girl within 
that social sphere. I suppose that I _could_ cop a 
religion to find someone, but that would be dishonest. 
 
 
 
 ... and I would rather be alone than to get involved 
with a religious type. 
 
 
 
 ... and being alone isn't so bad once you get used to it. 
 
 
 
Keep us posted as to how things go with you. 
 
Success stories are always welcomed within this group, 
and failures always treated with compassion and understanding. 
 
				
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			phoenixbird 
			
			
			
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				I do have friends I go out with occasionally. I really haven't made much of an effort the last year because two of my best friends were rooming with me so we just hung out all the time, and now that they're gone I don't really want to make much of an effort because I'm planning on moving in the next few months. I guess I make friends fairly easily, though I'm pretty introverted so it's kind of a strain, emotionally. 
 
That's true that most women are okay looking if they're thin, though I never do know what guys think about me. I'm fairly thin and okay looking I guess. I'm probably too picky. Most people stay in their "league", and I guess I don't like most of the guys in mine. I'm not that genuinely attracted to very many people. 
 
I agree about being alone better than being in a bad relationship -- I always told myself I would rather be alone than settle, but as I get older, I'm not so sure. I see a lot of people who seem like they settle. 
 
By the way, you can't say you have too many defects! Everyone has a lot of defects. I could write you a long list of mine. The point is to find someone whose defects complement your defects so you can function reasonably well together.  
 
I'm not religious at all, and I couldn't stand the kind of people I'd meet in a church. Most people outside the church think virginity after a certain age is odd. 
				
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			Blank_Wall 
			
			
			
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I do have friends I go out with occasionally. I really haven't made much of 
an effort the last year because two of my best friends were rooming with me 
so we just hung out all the time, and now that they're gone I don't really 
want to make much of an effort because I'm planning on moving in the next 
few months. 
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Are you moving to another city? 
 
 ... or small town perhaps? 
 
What is your line of employment? 
 
 
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I guess I make friends fairly easily, though I'm pretty introverted so it's 
kind of a strain, emotionally. 
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Are you someone who really wants to make any friends? 
 
Do you have any passions in your life? 
 
IOW: What do you live for? 
 
 
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That's true that most women are okay looking if they're thin, though I never 
do know what guys think about me. I'm fairly thin and okay looking I guess. 
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I’m about 6'1", and a semi-muscular 220 pounds - I could stand to shed some tonnage 
 - and I intend to once I’ve gotten my life in order. A part of my problem is that 
I’m not very attractive. I’ve encountered several people that have told me that I’m 
“mean-looking” - and I guess they have a point - I do look like a thug or something. 
 
Below are links to my “mug shots”: 
http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n109/Wally_989/ME/DSC01472.jpg 
http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n109/Wally_989/ME/DSC01476.jpg 
 
http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n109/Wally_989/ME/DSC01140-1.jpg 
http://i110.photobucket.com/albums/n109/Wally_989/ME/DSC01139.jpg 
 
 
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I'm probably too picky. Most people stay in their "league", and I guess I don't 
like most of the guys in mine. 
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What is wrong with them? 
 
What do you want in a relationship partner? 
 
 
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I'm not that genuinely attracted to very many people. 
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I’m not someone who cares much for socialization, but that is mainly a consequence 
of my problems. 
 
 
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I agree about being alone better than being in a bad relationship -- I always 
told myself I would rather be alone than settle, but as I get older, I'm not 
so sure. I see a lot of people who seem like they settle. 
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 ... and I’ve known several people who regretted doing it. 
 
As long as you take care of yourself, and remain at least somewhat physically 
attractive, you’ll have plenty of opportunities, but you may have to take the 
initiative if you should ever encounter the introverted type of guy that I 
believe that you’d be most compatible with - you may have to make the first 
move with someone like that. 
 
 
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By the way, you can't say you have too many defects! Everyone has a lot of 
defects. I could write you a long list of mine. 
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OK - let’s see that list. 
 
 
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The point is to find someone 
whose defects complement your defects so you can function reasonably well together. 
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It’s not as simple as that. 
 
As I’ve stated several times in this group now: It’s likely that I’m afflicted 
with Aspergers Syndrome, which means that I’m socially retarded to an extent. 
I’m someone who is difficult to understand, and who tends to inadvertently hurt 
people with some of the things that I say or do - which is the main reason why 
I don’t like to socialize - it isn’t a pleasant experience for me when I’m almost 
constantly on guard with myself - trying to catch myself before I make another 
social gaffe that will add to the list of incidences that have haunted me for 
most of my life. 
 
IOW: I absolutely HATE myself when I do things like that, so I try to avoid 
social situations where I would be prone to make any more gaffes. 
 
A major part of my problem is that I have a poor sense for boundaries. 
 
I don’t have much in the way of a personality - almost robotic in nature 
 - a veritable “Blank Wall”. I doubt that there are very many girls that 
I would desire to have a relationship with that would desire TO have a 
relationship with someone such as myself. I prefer the shy, withdrawn, 
introverted types, but those are the types that are the most difficult to 
locate - as those are the types that don’t tend to congregate much where 
they could be discovered (by their very nature) - and those are the types 
that are more easily hurt. It’s quite a conundrum when you think about it. 
 
 
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I'm not religious at all, and I couldn't stand the kind of people I'd meet in 
a church. [smile] Most people outside the church think virginity after a certain 
age is odd. 
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I know - and that is what I find to be so appalling. 
 
I don’t care as to what other people think of me. I’m quite open over the fact 
that I’m a virgin. It’s a good litmus test; If anyone thinks badly of me for 
being a virgin, then that indicates to me that the person making that assessment 
is some kind of an idiot. 
 
If you’re worried about being perceived as a “freak” for being a virgin, 
then I have a word of advice for you: Don’t. 
 
I believe that it would be such a waste to throw away your virginity like that 
just to gain the respect of idiots - it isn’t worth it - not by a long shot. 
 
				
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			phoenixbird 
			
			
			
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				I'm graduating from grad school in May and I'm planning on moving to AZ... because I can't stand the winter. What does IOW mean? I don't know what I live for -- that would be great to find out! It would probably help me find a career. I do like having friends, though I prefer a few close friends to many acquaintances. I'll make an effort when I move. Hopefully I'll meet some people through work. 
 
You made me laugh with saying you're mean looking. I totally get that too. I HATE it when people tell me to smile, though I haven't gotten that for a few years. It's just my face! My internet's being stupid so I can't load your pictures right now but I will later. 
 
I was actually thinking about my list of defects last night. Since you asked: 
Anxiety/OCD, which is pretty well under control with medication, but when it flares up, it irritates others by me being focused on myself, paranoid, and emotionally needy, in that I constantly seek reassurance. 
Stubborn on some things 
Indecisive 
Lazy, sometimes 
there's more, but I'm tired right now. 
 
So see, everyone has a list. 
 
My brother has Asperger's. It's not a bad case but it is noticeable socially. He's smart though, as you are, and so if I just explain to him what frustrated me or what faux pas he committed, he can learn for future similar situations. He has attended some kind of social clinic for awhile now, it seems to help a lot. He practices social stuff, etc. 
 
I disagree that you don't have a personality. Like everyone except the catatonic, you have a distinct personality. Maybe it just doesn't show up as well in person. 
				
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			Blank_Wall 
			
			
			
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I'm graduating from grad school in May and I'm planning on moving to AZ... 
 because I can't stand the winter. 
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Is that the only reason for moving to Arizona? 
 
It’s a lot of desert. I suppose it’s OK if you like sand and rock. 
 
I HATE cold weather. My sinuses (allergies) start to act up whenever I breathe 
cold air. I don’t know if it’s possible for someone to be allergic to cold, 
but I am if it is. 
 
Have you ever considered south Texas? 
 
The economy is doing pretty well here, especially around The Woodlands. 
 
If you prefer hot weather, you’d get plenty of it here. It snows here about once 
every ten years, and the nighttime lows get below freezing about 6 or 7 nights 
each winter on average. 
 
 ... and there is a lot of trees and grass. 
 
 
I know that the area around me is booming (unfortunately). 
 
 
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Other 
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I don't know what I live for -- that would be great to find out! It would 
probably help me find a career. 
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What is your degree in? 
 
Have you ever been to a career counselor? 
 
I saw one with the Texas Workforce Commission: 
http://www.twc.state.tx.us/ 
http://www.twc.state.tx.us/jobs/job.html 
http://www.lmci.state.tx.us/ 
 
Although he wasn’t all that helpful. I want to get into applications development, 
as one of my degrees is in Computer Science. My counselor told me that it wasn’t 
likely that anyone would hire me, due to my background (or lack thereof), and was 
trying to steer me towards bio-technology - which is an emerging field - and there 
are several bio-tech labs in and around The Woodlands. 
 
I’ve since decided to go against that advice, as I’ve been developing some 
software that might enable me to make my own breaks - once I get it developed 
to a certain point - along with some prototype systems. 
 
 
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I do like having friends, though I prefer a few close friends to many 
acquaintances. I'll make an effort when I move. Hopefully I'll meet some 
people through work. 
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I actually do have a few friends - sort of. I don’t hang out with them much 
 - and we don’t do things together very often - but they know me. 
 
These are people that like to talk - and I’m a good listener - so it’s one of 
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You made me laugh with saying you're mean looking. I totally get that too. 
I HATE it when people tell me to smile, though I haven't gotten that for a 
few years. It's just my face! My internet's being stupid so I can't load 
your pictures right now but I will later. 
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Once you see it, you’ll see what I mean. 
 
 
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I was actually thinking about my list of defects last night. Since you asked: 
Anxiety/OCD, which is pretty well under control with medication, but when it 
flares up, it irritates others by me being focused on myself, paranoid, and 
emotionally needy, in that I constantly seek reassurance. 
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You’re a nice person.    
 
 
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Stubborn on some things 
Indecisive 
Lazy, sometimes 
there's more, but I'm tired right now. 
 
So see, everyone has a list. 
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OK - not bad - but at least you’re not retarded. 
 
 
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My brother has Asperger's. It's not a bad case but it is noticeable socially. 
He's smart though, as you are, and so if I just explain to him what frustrated 
me or what faux pas he committed, he can learn for future similar situations. 
He has attended some kind of social clinic for awhile now, it seems to help a 
lot. He practices social stuff, etc. 
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I might get some counseling myself at some point. I’ve just got too much going 
on at the present - and I cannot afford to have any more distractions from what 
I need to get done. I’ve been working on this project for more than two years now 
 - mainly due to a lot of distractions that have nothing to do with software 
development - and also due to a lot of technical problems that took a lot of time 
to resolve - but also due to the magnitude of the project. It’s WAY past time for 
me to get the ball rolling. 
 
 
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I disagree that you don't have a personality. Like everyone except the catatonic, 
you have a distinct personality. Maybe it just doesn't show up as well in person. 
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It’s just that I tend to freeze up in social situations. I’ll try to have 
a conversation with someone (or they try to have a conversation with me), 
and I just go blank. It doesn’t matter if it’s an attractive female-type 
person or not. Besides that, I tend to be verbally dyslexic. I’ll try to 
engage in a discussion on a complex topic, and the words get all jumbled up 
in my head. I tend to back-track a lot - and go off on tangents - and drift 
away from the main point that I was trying to discuss at the outset. 
 
I express myself in writing FAR better than verbally - when I have a chance 
to organize my thoughts - and present them in a coherent manner. 
 
				
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			phoenixbird 
			
			
			
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				I emailed you!
				
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				I value virginity!
  
				You cannot imagine how I value virginity! You are not crazy, you are blessed. 
 
You need to go out with me. You don't need to do or say any thing, just 
come along. I'll take care of every thing, you can just have fun and relax. 
Bring a friend and you will be safe and feel absolutely no pressure. 
Easy... 
 
I only wish we were closer. Maybe we could chat first, and some thing would 
work out later? 
 
I get hit on all the time by beautiful women, because I am tall, dark and 
decent to look at, but they are all out for sex. Of course I want sex, I'm 
a man, but... I am seeking a virgin woman. A rare diamond among common 
stones, a fair budding flower set amidst the crowding weeds. Not to sound 
mellodramatic, but I would cross deserts and traverse mountains to find one 
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			Nicolas94 
			
			
			
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				What I think.
  
				Hey umm phoenix, im a guy and im going to very honest and tell you that going out with some guys who Post how they only want to date virgins, who you met on the internet.. is Undeniably going to end badly. 
 
 
Honestly I suggest you ask soem female friends if any of their guy friends are single. 
 
This is coming from a guy with a neutral stand point, you cannot really know anyone you've met over the internet and remember NOONE tells people their biggest flaws online. Trust me on this one 
 
So again my advice to you is too stop advertising your virginity, and find a guy irl who likes you for who you are. 
 
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				hello
  
				You cannot imagine how I value virginity! You are not crazy, you are blessed. 
 
You need to go out with me. You don't need to do or say any thing, just 
come along. I'll take care of every thing, you can just have fun and relax. 
Bring a friend and you will be safe and feel absolutely no pressure. 
Easy... 
bridal gowns, 
wedding gowns, 
I only wish we were closer. Maybe we could chat first, and some thing would 
work out later? 
euro wedding dresses 
plus size wedding dresses 
 
I get hit on all the time by beautiful women, because I am tall, dark and 
decent to look at, but they are all out for sex. Of course I want sex, I'm 
a man, but... I am seeking a virgin woman. A rare diamond among common 
stones, a fair budding flower set amidst the crowding weeds. Not to sound 
mellodramatic, but I would cross deserts and traverse mountains to find one 
such. 
				
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